A guided 4-week bootcamp for anyone who wants to make the best of all they have, from young professionals looking to accelerate their careers to those more seasoned who want to maximize the power of their experience and expertise.
Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp
93% of People Fail to Keep New Year's Resolutions.
Resilience Makes the Difference for the 7% Who Succeed
“New Year, New You” is a headline you see every January.
But the sad truth is that whatever people swear they’ll do in the new year to become the new version of themselves doesn’t happen . . . at least not very often
Regardless of the data sources–US government surveys, Gallup, the American Psychiatric Association, the Forbes Health Advisory Board, or numerous medical schools and university research centers–one thing is clear: Most people don’t keep their New Year’s resolutions.
In fact, the data suggest that as many as 93% of people who make New Year’s resolutions fail. This means only about 7% succeed, and the actual number may be closer to 5%.
Even then, the “winners” probably don’t manage to keep all their resolutions.
So if you’re like most people, your pattern is well established: You head into the new year full of hope. Your New Year’s resolutions are exciting, promise to make your life so much better, and you can’t wait to see them come true.
But each year, as early as mid-January, some resolutions fall off the list, and by the end of February, the list has been abandoned . . . at least if you’re like most people.
Willpower Isn’t Enough
You may have started out thinking that it’s just a matter of willpower. But willpower simply poops out over time.
Then, you feel guilty and demoralized . . . and beat yourself up.
But you don’t give up, so problem-solving comes next. Maybe your mistake was in not following the right tactic or strategy, like SMART goals, tiny habits, pomodoro technique, time boxing, or getting an accountability partner.
But again, if you’re like most people, you still drop out of the game.
The guilt and frustration you initially feel dies down as you rationalize, play down the importance of changing, or use other strategies to avoid the truth of your failure. You may be telling yourself that it wasn’t your fault because of all sorts of external factors or that this wasn’t really the year to make changes.
You’re certain next year will be different.
But will it?
3 Key Reasons People Fail
Research from top schools, including Harvard and Stanford, reveal three core reasons most people fail to keep their New Year’s Resolutions:
Our resolutions aren't necessarily connected to important values that make us feel engaged, alive, connected to what really counts for us.
We focus on goals rather than the outcomes.
We don't know how to persist when the going gets rough, nor make contingency plans for when things get off track.
This boils down to three fundamental questions that apply to any and all resolutions:
1. Do I really care?
2. What difference will it make?
3. Will I make it, and how?
This Year Can Be Different
Suppose your answers to these three questions were:
“Yes, I care.”
“It will make a positive difference.”
“I’ll do whatever it takes to make it.”
Then what?
If you’re a young professional looking for ways to get ahead in your career, settle down, perhaps with a family and kids, think about the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment you’d feel to bring those three answers to life.
Imagine waking up each day looking forward to using your talents and skills in ways that were just right for you, and getting the rewards you deserve.
The imposter syndrome that may have been haunting you for too long was no longer a threat.
And you see yourself at this same time next year reflecting back and being able to say, “I did it and it was good!”
Or, you’re a person who’s lived long enough and gained a depth of experience that gives you expertise and unique insights into life on the job and at home.
Now, you’re facing an inflection point in your life. It’s time to put yourself at the top of the list. Time to explore and discover a new door to open to another phase in your journey.
You aren’t satisfied with thinking that this is all there is to life. You hunger for more and know that you have capacity to take it on. You just hope that you can manage stick to the resolutions you’ve made this year.
If there was ever a time to make your dreams a reality, there’s not a better time than the new year, when the power of a fresh start is at its highest.
“If You're Going Through Hell, Keep Going!”
But a fresh start isn’t enough.
If you want to know how to make your New Year’s Resolutions stick, listen to experts who study human behavior where outcomes really matter, where it’s a matter of life and death.
In hospital emergency rooms, the cockpits of spacecraft, and on the field of military battle everyone works with relentless determination even when the risks are huge and desired outcomes a longshot.
That relentless determination is what former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill was talking about when he said, “If you're going through hell, keep going!”
But what enables people to keep going when what they’re going through is hell? What enables people to translate resolve and determination into action?
It’s resilience.
The elements of resilience that help clinicians, astronauts, and warriors succeed are the same as for anyone who wants to make their New Year's resolutions stick.
These include being adaptable, making timely decisions, using multiple approaches, and monitoring and measuring progress.
You may already be doing this.
But resilience isn’t only about taking action.
Psychological Flexibility Makes All the Difference
That’s because action is driven by your mindset, attitude, thoughts, and feelings. How you work with and manage these depends on your psychological flexibility, which is the foundation for resilience.
Psychological flexibility is your ability to take committed action in the service of your freely-chosen values despite troubling or difficult thoughts, feelings, or sensations.
You do what counts no matter what.
The problem is, psychological flexibility and the resilience it fosters don’t come naturally to us.
But you can build them and increase them.
The Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp Can Help
That’s why we developed the Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp. It’s a powerful 4-week program designed to help you keep this year’s resolutions all year long. Invest 4 weeks of your time and gain lifelong skills that enable you to live a rich and meaningful life no matter what comes your way.
Here’s What You’ll Learn
How to manage your nervous system in the face of adversity
Evidence-based practices to work with your nervous system when stress sets off automatic fight-flight-freeze responses
Techniques to reduce reactivity in emotionally-charged encounters that hijack your thinking brain
How to choose the right mind-body practices to manage the physiological effects of threat and conflict
How and when to use specific metaphors to help you stay present and focused when the mind wants to escape
Strategies to enhance your emotional intelligence, reduce your stress, and make better decisions
How to choose the right approach to optimize psychological flexibility
Proven techniques to increase your ability to be open, aware, and take effective action regardless of the challenges
Discover ways to transform adversity into opportunity
3 easy linguistic techniques to increase perspective and boost your ability to exercise choice instead of being trapped in automatic behavior patterns of reactivity
Use metaphors to reduce overwhelm and anxiety
Use visualization to plan and manage potentially difficult situations while acting in the service of your chosen values
How to use body-based approaches when your mind seems stuck in one position
How to uncover and amplify hidden strengths and skills that can help you take you take charge of your story instead of your story taking charge of you
15+ easy mind-body-breath techniques that can be done in less than 3 minutes to regulate energy and attention
How to use body-based experiments to free your mind when it seems trapped in a never-ending pattern of negativity
How to harness the power of social connection
How to use body-based mindfulness practices in social contexts
How to set pragmatic goals that help your team or group reach for the stars
How to use creative contingency planning strategies to anticipate and overcome disruptions and challenges your team or group may face along the way to your shared goals
“I was genuinely impressed by the program’s intuitive language and unique mind-body practices that guided my personal journey. The thoughtful inclusion of an organized list of values and ample space for reflections made it a transformative experience I’d highly recommend.”
The 4-Week Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp Kicks off February 2nd!
Here’s What You’ll Get:
Live coaching: Live coaching is crucial for building solid skills. It’s why every top performer in the world–no matter what discipline–always has at least one coach. It’s also why we offer live coaching at each step of the way through your journey toward greater resilience.
Initial kick-off call to orient you to how the program works and give you a taste of how each day’s simple practice opens the door for transformation
Weekly group coaching calls to facilitate your own self-coaching practice tailored to your unique interests, needs, values, and preferences
Daily mini morning audio that walks you through the mind-body practice for the day
28-day personal interactive journaling program that offers a structured curriculum to address each of the six aspects of psychological flexibility and features a comprehensive mind-body approach to greater psychological flexibility and increased resilience
4 weekly videos explaining the theory supporting each week's activities with practical tips and suggestions for getting the most out of your 4-week bootcamp
Tracking and monitoring tools to help you quickly assess key factors of psychological flexibility
Bonus materials and action guide
Why Does the Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp Feature Journaling?
Journaling boosts resilience in three ways.
Journaling is a key element in the Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp because it offers a combination of powerful benefits that other modalities simply don’t.
Results from over almost 4000 research studies published in the last 10 years that examine a wide variety of populations, settings, and conditions show that journaling can significantly boost three crucial factors that boost resilience:
Emotional intelligence and positivity (self-awareness, self-reflection, self-compassion, confidence, and optimism)
Well-being (life satisfaction, health, happiness, sense of meaning & purpose)
Effective coping (problem solving, agility, control)
Journaling is the ultimate in convenience, portability, and flexibility so it delivers immediate benefits in ways that are effective and feel psychologically safe.
The Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp optimizes journaling’s potential
In a study with over 27,000 participants, 92% found journaling helpful and 84% said that they would keep the journal to refer back to in the future.
The Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp optimizes the benefits of journaling by offering you three other elements research shows to make a difference that counts:
Education: Weekly videos and written content orient you to the purpose and rationale behind the week’s activities.
Practice: The daily journaling activities and mind-body practices are sequenced from the fundamentals to more advanced practice as you grasp new concepts and master new skills.
Coaching: Bonus materials, action guides, videos offer you more insights you can immediately apply to your own learning experience. Plus, you will receive an invitation to live group coaching sessions
Meet Your Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp Guides
Over the last almost 5 years, we’ve worked with people just like you who are struggling to do better in their lives, but running up against their own internal barriers.
Time and time again, they’re amazed at the power of what they learn with us . . . and it’s all based on cutting-edge neuro- and behavioral science, and linguistics as they apply to human performance, professional learning and development, and personal growth and transformation.
Together, we offer you our combined 60+ years of training and professional experience.
Dr. Deborah Teplow is co-founder of Be Your Own Best Coach and the Institute for Wellness Education, which created the occupational standards for wellness coaching for the US Department of Labor and the curriculum for the DoL’s 2-year Registered Apprenticeship. Previously, Deborah partnered with Indiana University School of Medicine to pioneer interactive case-based continuing medical education for physicians.
As an expert in translating theory into practice, Deborah helps people use evidence-based approaches to create lasting behavior change. Her special focus is on helping professionals and community activists increase their ability to engage and influence others.
Deborah earned her doctorate at Stanford University researching and publishing on the topic of performance and deliberate practice. She has taken advanced training in post-modern behavioral approaches to change including solution-focused brief therapy, and acceptance and commitment therapy. Certifications include Tiny Habits® coaching and several athletic-related certifications.
Glen Lubbert is co-founder of Be Your Own Best Coach and the founder of Stamina Lab, which helps people maximize their potential and live a long healthspan through human performance coaching. Before that, Glen founded an award-winning, multi-million dollar tech incubator in the health and medical industry.
Glen leverages behavior design to help teams and individuals who want to take their professional and personal performance to the next level while improving their sleep, reducing stress, avoiding burnout, having more energy, and dropping into flow.
In addition to helping people level up their performance, Glen has studied nervous system management and mindfulness including with University of Massachusetts’ Medical School professor Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D., is certified in Stanford Behavior Design Lab founder Dr. BJ Fogg’s Tiny Habits® behavior change methodology, is a certified Thrive Global coach, and is a certified sleep & recovery expert as well as a former Division I athlete.
What Makes This Program Special:
Expert-Designed: The Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp is designed by Dr. Deborah Teplow and Glen Lubbert, experienced behavior designers and performance coaches. They share deep insights into the most current validated scientific theories and then turn that theory that they’ve turned into practical action to help you boost your resilience.
Personalized Plan: Unlike other resilience-training programs that are prescriptive and dogmatic, Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp invites you to be both the scientist and the subject. You test out a wide range of interventions to see how they work to deliver the results you want and how they fit with your own unique needs, interests, preferences, and values.
Comprehensive: Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp is not a hodge-podge of tips and techniques. Instead, it addresses all six components of psychological flexibility using a science-based mind-body approach to maximize your resilience and ability to take effective action no matter what and bounce back, with, forward, and outward.
Lifetime Access: Once you sign up for the program, you have lifetime access to all Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp resources, including future updates and additions.
“The Be Your Own Best Coach Resilience Challenge is great. I like the day-to-day approach to being open, aware, and engaged. The exercises creatively allow people to play with these in different ways. ”
The 4-Week Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp Kicks off February 2nd!
We Promise!
We are confident that this program will knock your socks off. Based on the experience of people in our previous cohorts, you can expect that after just the first session, you’ll feel lighter, more optimistic and confident, and have a smile on your face.
That’s because we’ve designed it for people who know that even small steps can lead to big rewards. This means you get power-packed content in small, bite-sized pieces within a flexible framework that allows you to tailor what you learn to your unique needs, interests, preferences, and values.
If after the first week, you decide the program didn't deliver on its promise for any reason, email solutions@beyourownbestcoach.com before the second live session to get a full refund
Is This the Right Fit for You?
This program is for anyone who’s “been there, done that” with New Year’s resolutions and finally wants to get it right.
You’re ready to work toward things you’ve only dreamed about, and you know you have it in you to make the changes required.
You’re also fed up with failure and discouragement.
This is the year you’re ready for something new, something that works. And you’re willing to stretch. You’re willing to do just 4 week’s worth of work to gain the insights and skills to keep your resolutions for all year . . . and beyond.
But if you’re the kind of person who still thinks that making New Year’s resolutions stick is just a matter of finding the right technique, this may not be the right program for you.
It also isn’t right for anyone who isn’t willing to take a deep dive into their internal world and discover ways to be more open, aware, and capable of taking action even in the face of difficult, painful, or uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, or sensations that hold you back.
Do You Have to Fix Last Year’s Failures to Do Better This Year?
One of the most common fears people have is that to do better this year, they’ll have to fix what’s gone wrong for them in years past. They’ll have to do some form of root-cause analysis–examine what’s held them back, drill down on where they’ve fallen short, and account for the many mistakes they’ve made.
In other words, they’ll have to open themselves up to reveal their vulnerabilities.
This belief is wrong. And unfortunately, it’s way too common.
Thousands of research studies in positive psychology, management and leadership, human performance, and clinical psychology make it clear that people do best when the focus is on their human capacity for resilience, resistance, courage, thriving, and ingenuity, and not deficits and limitations.
That’s why the Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp features a solution-focused, strength-based approach.
We help you:
Discover and amplify what’s already going right for you
Identify what’s already working, even if it’s just a little bit so you can do more of it
Tap into strengths and skills you’ve overlooked or minimized
Harness that history of your success to open the doors for fulfilling future dreams
Use amazingly simple but powerful ways to transform your mindset, behavior . . . and life
Why Taking Action Right Now Is So Critical
Katherine Milkman and colleagues at the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School explain why. Their research revealed a psychological phenomenon that occurs at time-based landmarks such as the start of a new week, month, or year; holidays; and birthdays.
Milkman calls it the “fresh start effect.” Under the influence of this effect, people take a mental accounting of the previous time period, relegate past mistakes and flaws to the past, and look with greater optimism toward the future. They are most motivated to pursue behaviors that help them achieve their personal goals.
While you may not have heard of the fresh start effect, everyone is familiar with the idea of turning over a new leaf, getting a running head start, and wiping the slate clean and starting again.
That explains why “new year, new you” is so appealing. But the biggest fresh start only happens once a year: right now!
So, we encourage you to take advantage of the wind in your sails that this new year offers. Don’t let another year go by without learning how to take action in the service of what really counts for you no matter what. And it only takes 4 weeks!
“I found the interactive Resilience Challenge to be really useful and powerful. It helped me to be very insightful, intentional and mindful of my activities during the day and to be aware if I was behaving within my values. It also made me recognize I had other values that I may not exercise as often, so I made some intentions to act on that value for the upcoming day. Very motivational.”
The 4-Week Resilience, Not Resolutions Bootcamp Kicks off February 2nd!